As your mediator I guide the discussions and help you reach decisions. Soon, you will stop seeing each other as enemies in a "war" where there is only one winner and one loser. When you stop seeing each other as enemies you realize that you can work, with my help, to solve problems, rather than struggle to win or lose a fight.
Your common goals are emotional stability, good relationships with your children, and financial security. When couples focus on those goals, they can usually set anger aside and make decisions that help them get what they both need. I promote constructive communication and may suggest creative options if you reach an impasse on a particular issue. With my help you focus on the future, rather than harping on the past.
My practice is not to charge couples for the first half-hour meeting with me when I explain the divorce mediation process and answer questions.